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5 years ago
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In '81 I got to buy a new vehicle. Money was still tight, but we really needed two cars. I had a friend that worked at the Chevy Dealer near where we moved to in Vista, CA. I bought a brand new California Edition Chevy Luv 4X4. This just added to the recreational opportunities for us. It was a good little truck, but it had no ground clearance. My friends and I would go off road 4-wheeling a lot. Their goal was to try to go places that I would get stuck. Many was the time they had to come and pull me off when I got high-centered. I learned in the desert that lowering your air pressure can help to increase traction in the sand. I loved that little truck and all was going well... until Carolyn got pregnant. All of a sudden we realized that my little truck was not going to hold the two of us and a baby in a car seat. So... we traded in both of our vehicles and bought a new Toyota Corolla station wagon. We got it a few months before Kori was born and loved having it. We put a lot of miles on that old car. One of my friends owned a Subaru Brat (the kind with the jump seats in the bed). He used to drive off-road to get to places thinking I wouldn't follow him in the station wagon. He was wrong. It went everywhere he did.
After almost a year there, I was given orders for recruiting duty. I attended school in San Diego. I can honestly say that it was the most difficult course I have ever been through in my life. The cool part was that we were at the recruit depot there in SD. It was amazing to see all the changes that had been made in the short 5+ years that I had been in the Corps. I did well in recruiting school and was given my choice of duty stations. I applied for Fort Smith, AR, Dallas, TX and Little Rock, AR. I was given my first choice. I thought I would be in heaven being so close to home. I knew a lot of people there. That isn't a good thing. I have this little fault.... I couldn't lie (or stretch the truth). The Marine Corps and Air Force had the highest requirements to get in at that time. When I found a kid who was trying to decide between college and the Corps, I always encouraged them to go to college. That's not what a good recruiter is supposed to do. A good recruiter isn't supposed to lie, but they did encourage not telling the whole truth. I had a big problem with this. Little to say, my numbers were not good at all. I didn't make it on recruiting duty and got out of the Corps in July of '85. It was an honorable discharge under medical conditions. More about that in another post. When I got out, they moved our belongings to Dallas, TX. I'll begin there in the next chapter.

During the summer months, the nursery business is very slow. When we didn't have work at the nursery, I got a job inserting papers at the Mena Star (the local rag). I don't remember what I got paid, but I'm sure it wasn't much. Gone are the days when you can get a job as a 12 year old. When School started I opted to join the football team. In CT I was in the band. I wanted to be the next greatest athlete. The only problem was that I was not gifted in the area of height. I was fast and I could outjump just about anyone, but size was what mattered in football. I got to play a little, but I really didn't have a clue about what I was doing. When football was over, I tried out for Basketball. Because I didn't take a physical in the fall, I had to take one before I could play basketball. Little to say, the doctor said that I had a hernia and couldn't play until I got it fixed. Turns out it wasn't a hernia at all, but I chose to go back to band. I played the trombone and had the edge on others in the band. I had been playing for well over a year while the rest were all beginners. I never did care much about band, but I liked belonging, so I stuck with it for a while. At least until I laughed at something that the band director said and she got mad and told me to quit laughing or leave - so I left and changed to study hall.
Jr. High Football 1973 (I was #39 - the second player from the left in the front row)
during the winters. I can remember one winter was especially bad for us. Money was ultra-tight and we didn't have a customer for the entire month of January. Everything was so frozen that we couldn't do any landscaping. My best friend's parents (Vernon) owned a chicken laying house, so I went out there just about every day and helped gather eggs. In return I got crates of eggs and some chicken to take home. That winter we heated the greenhouse with firewood to save money on gas. My father did most of the stoking of the fire, but I took my turns every night. What a nightmare. I know that the temperatures set records that year as well as snowfall records. The snow was awesome, but the cold sucked. I didn't have a heater in my room so I froze at night. I was, however, the only one in my family that never got sick.


and sometimes I had to fight to get to spend time with him. I had 4 sisters (two older, a twin, and one younger). The good part is that although my time with Dad was limited, I can remember that we had a lot of special times together. He had a love of nurseries and landscaping, and would often take me on some of his moonlighting jobs. In 1966 my father was sent to Japan for a one-year unaccompanied tour (without the family). The family packed up and left California to stay near my Mother's relatives in Connecticut. I felt lost. I was the only male in the house at the time and I can't remember getting a word in edgewise. I had a few friends, but mostly I enjoyed spending time with my Grandfather and one of his neighbors, Uncle Charley. Now Charley
wasn't really my uncle, but he did more with me and for me than any of my real uncles (no offense to anyone in the family). I can remember at the ripe old age of 6 that Charley took me on a boy scout outing with the troop he led. I can still remember the cool beautiful rapids and the fish jumping out of the water. After that camp out, Charley took me fishing whenever we were in town. He and his wife didn't have any children, so I guess I filled the part of a part-time son for him. I learned a lot from Charley (he died a few years ago).
wonder that I was never bitten by a snake. Although the heat soared in the area during the summers, I seemed oblivious. There was always the sprinkler to run through. I can remember that it was hot (often over 110 degrees), but I don't remember it ever knocking me down.
It was during the three years that we spent in Barstow that I really began to fall in love with landscaping and waterfalls. I know, Barstow is in the middle of the desert, but it was what we did that became ingrained in my mind. My father and I worked all the time on the yard. We built a small waterfall in the back yard and our lawn was green and luscious.
I still want a truck like that old heap. Little did I know then that what I began to learn way back then would follow me forever.
They were very happy to let me do the tasks that no one else in their life wanted to do. I pulled weeds, watered plants, moved things from point A to point B.... and I did it all with a smile. I loved it. In June of 1973 we left Connecticut and set sail for Arkansas (My Mom, Dad, 4 sisters, myself, and my little brother, a cat, and a dog - all in one station wagon). I'm sure that we looked like the Beverly Hillbillies when we were driving into town.